I Write Smut and I’m A Mom #sirenauthor

I’m a mom.  My eight year old son is the light of my life.  I adore him and I love being his mom.  He’s more fun than cable TV and cuter, too.

I also write erotic romance.  Smut, if you will.

I was asked recently how I reconcile the two.  Does he know?  Are you going to tell him?

First of all, hell no, he doesn’t know.  He’s EIGHT, for God’s sake.  It wasn’t too many years ago we were reading Dr. Seuss together.

Am I going to tell him?  Eventually.  When he’s much older and we can’t keep the secret any longer.  Right now he knows I write books but has zero interest in what I write.  After all, it’s romance.  An eight year old boy doesn’t care about romance novels.  He likes Star Wars, LEGOS, Ninjago, and farting.  Kissing on television makes him cover his eyes.

I assume at some point as he grows older he’ll figure out my pen name and google me.  Yes, I will have some explaining to do.  No, I’m not worried about it.

I think the real issue for this person was their comfort level with mothers and sex.  If I write erotic romance,  I’ve sort of blown that saintly madonna-like image of a mother holding her child.  That’s okay with me.  I’m far from a saint.  I don’t really want to be a saint, either.  I’m a whole person with a mishmash of good personality traits and bitchy ones, too.

I don’t want to be categorized to make others feel more comfortable.

I’m a mom and I write erotic romance.

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8 thoughts on “I Write Smut and I’m A Mom #sirenauthor

  1. I read the title and immediately thought, “someone has mommy/sex issues!”. It’s true though. People take issue with women retaining interest in sex period after a certain point. Add kids and it’s like you’re sexless. That just goes to show that views on sex are still quite antiquated. Personally, if it never came up in conversation later? I’m not sure I’d ever bring it up.

  2. There are always going to be people more than eager to either judge you or tell you how they believe you should behave. I have young grandchildren, and adult ones. It’s kind of weird when my adult ones show interest in my writing. To my younger ones, I just say that I write books for adult women. And to anyone else who says anything else, I simply smile and say, “bless your heart.”.

  3. I’m not published (unless WP is considered “published”) and I’m with you. I’m a mom of 2 and I write smut…and I’ve even been told I’m not that bad at it…lol…

    Yeah, apparently, the moment we had sex to conceive, we were supposed to become sexless creatures devoted only to our offspring…

  4. Great post! I’m a grandma and I write smut…and no, the grandkids don’t know (the age thing), and it turns out only two of the four grown sons know and they’re cool with it. The other two wouldn’t be, so no need. I hope someday for a world that doesn’t judge and I’ve gotten excited about “sex positivity” as a core value.

  5. I write smut too and post images. I am one of those breeds of Sex Bloggers that walk this planet. I too am a Mum to 2 children aged 9 and 12. They know that I write for a living and they also know I am a photographer. They have both seen my 365 project blog as that is not adult content but not my main blog. They have asked about it and I have told them I write about adult subjects and that when they are adults they can see it then.

    I know that one day things will change and they will discover for themselves and when that happens I am ready for the conversation that I will need to have with them to explain them why I do what I do and that I am not ashamed of my work. I think the hardest thing for them would be if their friends found out and teased them for it. If that ever happens though I hope that I can help them through that and show them that we as a family are stronger than people stupid words and prejudices.

    It is a fine line and at times a slightly risky business but so far so good and being a sex blogger has not relevance to my ability to be a good parent.

    Mollyxxx

  6. I’m a mom of 3 boys, and they do know that I write books that I call “Adult” and that they aren’t going to get to read them anytime soon. I’m not ashamed of it, so I hate it when people try to guilt me about it. I like to sweetly explain that I’m comfortable enough with my own sexuality to want to encourage other’s to explore theirs in the privacy of their own homes, and that I don’t force my books on anyone. That usually shuts up the haters. 🙂 If I was in a porno I wouldn’t share it with my kids, and this isn’t something for my kids. I write erotic romance books for me, and the MILLIONS of other women out there like me. 🙂

  7. WOW! All great comments! Thanks all for taking the time to stop by. It sounds like we are all pretty comfortable with who we are and what we do! I think it’s pretty awesome.

  8. This is exactly what I was looking for! I was having a hard time trying to make that disconnect, being a mom and writing smut, but now I feel a lot better. It’s always going to be “what other people think” and I think that as long you don’t care what other people think, you’ll hit the “ma, you write adult stories?!?!” conversation when you get to it…

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